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This easy going nature has been great, but it has also caused some concern regarding his feeding. For the first few days he was very sleepy and it was difficult to get him to wake up to nurse. Nearly every time he would awaken take a few swallows and go back to sleep. On the first night back from the hospital I tried unsuccessfully for 2 hours to get him to nurse and he just wouldn’t stay awake. I finally decided to pump and gave him the milk in a bottle. He gulped it down. I realized he was hungry he was just too easy going to put in the work to nurse. From that time on we started supplementing with formula. He was still lethargic in the morning so we took him into the doctor and they ran some tests on him. There was some concern because of the loss of blood during the umbilical cord clamping. In order to do the tests they needed to draw some blood. They tried to get veins in both of his arms but couldn’t find anything. Instead they decided to draw it from his foot. They made a small cut in his foot and they squeezed the blood out drop by drop. It was torture holding him and watch them squeeze out the drops of blood. After she had squeezed for 10 minutes and filled the vial half way she was going to cap it and test it and then she realized that the blood had clotted and she had to throw it away and start all over. At that point the lack of sleep and worry combined and I knew I was starting to lose it. I called Ken over and had him hold him and I went into the parking lot and cried. With each of our children I have had our moment of hitting the wall. I have learned to embrace these moments rather than trying to put them off – which just makes them worse. For some reason my emotional state needs a good break down after big events. I anticipate these moments now, allow myself to release everything and then I come out stronger and better able to take care of myself, and my family. There is something important for me about acknowledging this situation is difficult and you have no control over it except for how you are going to react to it, so cry for now and then get on with what you need to do.
Eventually I went back inside and they had successfully drawn two vials. We got the test results back later that day and he was not anemic, but he was dehydrated and his hemoglobin count was down. We were given the charge to try and keep his weight up. We took him in the next day and he had gained an ounce so we knew we were on the right path. On Monday we had to take him into the doctor again because his umbilical cord was starting to get infected – something we knew was going to be a possibility. His weight was up 3 more ounces so we know that the feeding issue is getting better.
Overall things are going very well. Although it is funny that it has taken me 6 days to write this all down. Transitioning to four has been great, but largely because of the support of Ken, my mom, and friends. Leo has shown the most difficulty out of all the kids with getting used to another little one. We have tried to have one-on-one time with him in the afternoon when he comes home early from kindgergarten. Midge is a second mom doing everything from feeding him to giving out free back massages. Little Miss has done much better than we thought and is also very mothering. She gets very concerned when he cries and likes to help.

